One of my very favorite things in the world is driving down 285 in the farthest left lane going 85 mph late at night listening to something that makes me glad to be alive.
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Shoutout to my boo love @emmolei for this playlist! She made it just for me
(Source: Spotify)
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Today wife and I went to a talk by Saru Jayaraman on her book Behind the Kitchen Door. This book and the movement behind is crucial to restaurant workers’ rights including paid sick days, raise in minimum wages, and health benefits. Did you know that restaurant minimum wage has been $2.13 for 22 years because of lobbying by the National Restaurants Associated, head in the 90s by Herman Cain? Yeah THAT Herman Cain. With the fast food strikes going on across the US in the past month, what better time for this discussion. Hosted at the Jimmy Carter Museum in Atlanta.
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My soulmate.
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(Source: Spotify)
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Anonymous asked: Have you ever gotten back together with an ex? I just experienced a break-up and I'd like to win this person back. I felt like I wasn't given a fair chance to fix the issues they saw in the relationship. Any tips?
Hello,
The honest answer is no.
Although I’ve considered it more than once. In my most serious affairs, I was the one left heartbroken (it sounds like you are in that space now).
Even though I was heartbroken and confused as to how I had arrived in a place I vowed to never be, over time things became clearer. My tears stopped falling and it didn’t feel like I was combusting a million times a day. And, my dear anonymous, when I reached that space, a place of loving and accepting myself and my choices, is when the ex(es) in question seemed to “want me back.”
You must know that anyone that has broken your heart, in at least some small measure, is aroused by your devastation. So the longer and more violently you are clashing against their choice, the stronger their desire to see you that way.
When you come to that place of acceptance, it’s very likely they will become panicked. (That fragile ego is something else). And then you will be the person making the decisions about whether to get back together.
So if you want your ex back, I advise you work on yourself. Specifically, work on loving yourself hard, knowing that you are worthy and will be fine with or without him/her. Think about the choices and emotions in your relationship, not so you relive them but so you come to understand what led you to this place.
When you do that, I can almost promise your lover will return in some fashion.
But what I found when I had done that hard emotional work within was that I was better alone, loving myself in the way I should be loved, than with someone that thrives on my misery.
Either way, you are the answer.
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Pink
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إن كان من فضة كلامك يا * نفس فان السكوت من ذهب
“If your words are made of silver, O my Soul,
then your silence is made of gold.”I mixed the silver in my words with iodine.
It forms a pale, yellow salt that clouds my eyes -
a salt not dissolved by tears.I will hush my soul with this verse
in the dark,
leave in shadow the words I cannot erase
and it will sound like
an apologyand it will sound like
a prayer.a prayer
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Today was green.